Groom – Topics to Cover in Your Wedding Speech

So you’ve written your vows, dug deep within the depths of your heart to find the words appropriate for the love of your life. Your creative juices have flowed and the pool is dry. But now you have the task of writing a speech for the toasts.

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Writing a wedding speech can be a daunting task and remembering what and who to include can be tricky. You don’t want to miss anything but equally you’ll want to keep your guests engaged and entertained, remember they will all have a tummy full of delicious food and wine, their urge to nap will be strong!

We’ve compiled a list of things to remember when writing that iconic speech. This is by no means an exhaustive list to stick to, everyone’s speech is different, but this might just give you some pointers:

  • Thank the Father of the Bride. He will have likely just made the first speech so thank him on behalf of yourself and your new bride.
  • Thank the guests for joining you; particularly if they may have travelled some distance, they’re here for you after all!
  • Thank both sets of parents (and any other particularly important guests) for their assistance in planning the day. This is where you might gift both mothers with flowers etc.
  • Coo over your new wife. The most important part!
  • Thank the best man *insert cheeky stag do comment here*
  • Compliment the bridesmaids and give them a toast.
  • Personal anecdotes will bring the humour and emotion, so don’t forget to make it your own.

It’s not just about the content; we’ve got some top tips for the writing process and delivery too:

  • Try not to write your speech in one sitting. You’ll likely find you get a better quality of speech if you break down the topics and write a small amount at different times. You can then go back at a later date with a fresh pair of eyes and edit anything that may not work. Don’t rush it, start way ahead of time so you’re not putting pressure on yourself.
  • If you’re worried about losing your speech, print a spare copy and give to your best man or a groomsman to look after. Vital!
  • Practice! This is so important. No one wants to see you reading from a script. If you know the rough layout of your speech and an idea of what you say, the speech will flow naturally and feel more personal, it’ll help the nerves too.
  • Be brief. It shouldn’t be an essay describing ‘that one thing the bride’s brother said to you that one time when you were on holiday 5 years ago’. Time your speech and make sure it doesn’t go over 5 minutes. Keep it snappy and keep your guests engaged.
  • Most importantly, make it your own! The more personal your speech is, the more comfortable you will feel delivering it and the more heartfelt it will be. Try to make it feel more like you’re just talking to your friends and family father than a formalised speech and you should feel the flow.

Good luck!

From Lisa and the Team at Wasing Park.

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